New Year Resolutions

Every year millions of people all over the world anxiously await to hit the reset button in their life starting on January 1st.  Millions set all types of goals ranging from small steps to major milestones as they eagerly enter the new year with high hopes of fulfilling the mission they’ve laid out for themselves.  It’s a beautiful and refreshing feeling to wake up January 1st & begin on the quest for doing something different in your life.  Just be mindful that as you venture out in the world to conquer your new destiny, be aware of the many pitfalls that unfortunately trip a lot of people up.  Usually these pitfalls we trip up on are brought about by our actions & thinking.

I was going to sit down and type up an article telling you how to set realistic goals & develop simple methods for achieving them, but I received an email from a very successful fitness expert out in California recently & he laid out the blueprint for how to actually complete your New Year goals successfully.  So without further ado, I’m just going to type exactly what was sent to me in the email word for word.  I hope you find inspiration in these words as I have.

Dr. Saman Bakhtiar of Fitness Concepts

The definition of ‘thoughts’ is “An idea or mental picture, imagined & comtemplated by thinking or occurring suddenly in the mind.”

I believe if you can harness & channel the right thoughts you will be unstoppable in any walk of life.

These 5 thoughts are mistakenly carried out by the best of us at times & may be the reason why you can’t reach that level of success you have been hoping for.

Break throughs are made when we change the way we think, when we alter our beliefs & open our mind to its full & witty potential.

1.  Perfectionism

We have all heard the saying ‘no one is perfect’ & in my opinion….thank God!  Could you imagine a world with total perfection?  It would be boring & there would be no thrill of risk & nothing better to strive for or look forward to.  I believe imperfection makes something beautiful, real and different & this is how most successful people in the world get to where they are now, by embracing their flaws/imperfections & putting everything they can into their passion!  

Thomas Edison invented 3,000 duds before he invented the lightbulb.  He himself did not call it failure.  Instead, he said:  “Any of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Taking imperfect action is the best starting point.  There will NEVER be the perfect time to start, you just have to make it a priority & start making it happen.  Don’t be one of those people that keep saying ONE DAY.  MAKE IT HAPPEN TODAY!

2.  Comparing Yourself to Others

There is only one YOU & trying to be like anyone is a total waste of time I say!  Don’t compare yourself to others.  Instead focus on being the very best VERSION OF YOURSELF.  Everyone is unique so embrace YOU & concentrate on what you can do, do no focus on what others can do.

3.  Thinking That You’re Not ‘Good Enough’

Ok, so I am even guilty of this at times however who are you or anyone else for that matter to say that you are not good enough?

I truly believe that your mind is the most powerful tool you have & thoughts become reality!  Start telling yourself that you are good enough, or better yet that you are THE BEST, even if you don’t believe it, you will start to etch this out & create what once was just a vision.


We are all put on this earth for our own personal journeys & successes & I know that no matter what anyone says, everyone has it in them to do anything they put their mind to!  All you have to do is start believing it!  Don’t go back to your old self-sabotaging habits in 2014.  For something to change SOMETHING has to change.  And it starts with your mindset.

4.  Doing Too Much At Once

I was talking to a new client after he had enrolled in our program for a week.  He said he was so motivated the first day he signed up that he went for a 10 mile run. I then asked him what he did for the rest of the week?  He said, “Nothing, I had blisters on my feet.”

SMH…This is a perfect example of why you shouldn’t do too much at once.

Darren Hardy, the author of Success Magazine in his book The Compound Effect (one of my favorite books of all time) says:

What separates successful VS unsuccessful is the unyielding & relentless commitment to consistency.  It is also the same principle for why the tortoise always beats the hare.  It’s not how fast you start; it’s how long you can remain consistent.  I believe it’s the biggest reason why people don’t end up with results they want and the life they seek.  Most people operate in fits & starts — a great flurry of activity that then flames out.  Most people don’t have a problem starting.  Everybody easily gets excited, joins, sign up, starts & begins.  Millions of people make New Year’s Resolutions, start diet programs, join gyms, buy personal development books, go to seminars, hire coaches, etc, but their life doesn’t change.  Because success is not defined by how you start, but by how you continue…over a long period of time.

5.  “But I”  (Excuses, Excuses…)

The 5th & final rule is a ban on excuses!  Everyone can find an excuse to do or not to do something, this is a known fact!  Excuses help us justify the doubts we already have about something so that the risk is lessened by a self belief for why we can’t do something.  However, I have a philosophy that everything works both ways, so next time you find yourself making or finding an excuse why not to do something, change your way of thinking & force yourself to come up with an excuse as to why you SHOULD do that something!

Whenever I doubt something or find myself coming up with an excuse I ask myself this one little question:  What’s the worst that can happen?

Usually my answer to this is “It won’t work out the way I want it to” & if this is what happens then you know what not to do in the future or what to do when you try next time!

It’s all easier said than done & no one can help you unless you really want to help yourself but one thing I do know is that we are all creatures of habit so if you start to forcefully change your way of thinking by following these rules then your body & mind will soon catch on & start to think differently in your favor, automatically!

Dr.  Saman Bakhtiar

photo credit:  Thomas Hawk

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