Face It, Blerd Men are Better Off Dating Interracial

By:  H.T. (@Gees3Howard)

In the time since my appearance on BLE, I actually have taken Gil & company’s advice and now I’m a month into a happy relationship with my girlfriend Jacqueline.  As I sit here writing this, I often think, “Why don’t other blerds just find love too?”  Fact is, I think as Asher Primus put it, blerd men are kinda shit on as far as the marketability in dating.  Damn what that incompetent fuck Jason Black or Tariq Nasheed has to say about blerds, fact is, black nerds catch shit because apparently the narrative for black men and black masculinity is still stuck in the goddamn 70s, so now any black man that doesn’t look like the cast of Three the Hard Way is now less than human.

What black men are supposed to be like in 2017.


As far as dating goes, because clearly it’s the norm now to only date a guy for admittedly shallow reasons, blerd men are kinda dicked, as Asher put it, blerd men tend to be raised to have manners, decency and generally act right in the age of dirty niggas with no jobs smacking and pulling guns on chicks being the main ones getting text backs, the shit seems stacked.  But it isn’t even as simple as just THAT.

To be fair, if all your crushes curved you for this, you’d be mad too.

The typical asked question to black nerds is, “Well why don’t you just date nerdy black women?”  Well, there’s a problem with that too.  See, first, even IF said blerd girl still dates black dudes, chances are she’s one of those weird hipsters that will very likely shit test you into submission by slowly but surely emasculating you.  It starts with your clothes, then what you listen to, then what you watch, before you know it, you’re a carefree black boy making your avi on social media be you with a flower crown and lip gloss and you’re on social media talking about how men are trash.  The other alternative is the more obvious one, but it’s also the one black nerds walk on eggshells dealing with.

The fact is that a great deal of black nerd women don’t date black men.  The excuse they make is, “But black men never wanted me.”   No….all the black men YOU wanted didn’t want you.  Get it right.  Face it, I have NEVER seen a blerd girl who said black dudes didn’t talk to her that either:   A) lived in an area where there were almost no other black people or B) was holding out for a guy who clearly wasn’t into her to like her.  The problem isn’t that it’s black women dating outside their race, the problem is that after a while you start to realize where your not wanted.  And this is where my argument comes in.

Fact is, blerds are at a disadvantage as even the so called “pick mes” don’t want us as clearly we don’t fit their standards either.  Beyond that, blerd men are faced with being not an option, emasculated or are to stuff ourselves into some hotep ass identity to attract some chick who likely has a bunch of guys telling her that the black woman is god and PayPaling her money.

This is where I say that black nerd men should date explicitly outside the black community.  Yeah, I said it.  Face it, the black community for the most part doesn’t take us seriously.  And black women in the general age bracket of most single blerd men are still in their “men are trash” phase and frankly guys like @____PantheR ,@TheodoreFusion_ , Kriss from MTR Studios Podcast Network aren’t helping that end any time soon.  Fact is, black men should view it more as exploring our options rather than as betraying black women.

Why are any of us expected to just sit on standby just because ONE group of women don’t seem to want us?  What, because some guy who claims to be a doctor says only black women will understand our struggle?  What struggle?  The average black nerd’s struggle isn’t even racism so much as it’s being ostracized from the black community, nerd communities and now even black nerd communities as now black men are attacked in women-led black nerd circles as being toxic; but let some random Asian dude with a six pack who likes black girls or some white guy with a soulful voice that can sing Frank Ocean show up, and suddenly he’s bae.

 

Or just tweet stuff like this.

If anything, a white nerd girl would get you more than anyone else as most nerd circles in general don’t welcome women, and black nerd women get away with drinking “white women tears” but apparently misogynoir or whatever is different and worse because “the black woman is the most disrespected woman on the face of the earth.”  No, this applied back when it was said.  NOW it’s being co-opted by women who use it to excuse shit like the annoying thoughts and antics of people like Crissle from The Read.

I simply disagree with the belief that black nerd men need to meet a certain level of attractiveness or to conform to some standard of dress, conversation, interests or personality.  Honestly anyone that demands you conform to their standards to even potentially be considered as a mate is very likely someone who was never interested in YOU, but rather what you could do for THEM.  Fact is, if someone really wants you, contrivances can be made and should be made.  The path of changing yourself for a woman quite literally ends with you giving up your dignity, integrity, and confidence for someone who can leave at anytime and leave you to have to pick up the pieces.  So I assure you, don’t listen to anyone that tells you that you need to conform.  I know too many men who kept it 100 every day and are happy.  Don’t sell yourself for someone else.

Accept that once you free yourself from the judgements of others, understand that many of the elders that taught you to forgo your happiness in dating for the sake of the black community will likely die without facing the consequences of their agendas, and that there’s really nothing peoples’ opinions of you can really impact in your life beyond what you let it impact.  The fact is that you will see that finding true love can happen.  Just remember this one thing:  everyone who will judge you for going into interracial dating will likely either be very miserable, jealous or so self-righteous to the point of being ineffective.  Best of luck to you.

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  • Flash Cloud

    Is this satire?

  • Senita Mahoney

    This lonely lame as dude, “nerdy black women don’t date black men, if they say it’s because black men don’t date them, it’s just the guys they go after.” The irony is so painful it hurts. Don’t even get me started on his fragile masculinity. I pity the non black female this dude tried to get with. That amount of insecurity is crippling.

    • H.T. Smith

      No such thing as fragile masculinity. Just a backbone

  • ThaGoddess9

    Being a male blerd doesn’t mean you’re not an Asshole…

  • Etarah Bickley

    This whole article is hilarious, tacky, and sad. Speaking as a blerd girl who grew around the thugs that we supposedly want and lust after, I wasn’t checking for them dudes! Never had. I dated a thug lite type once in my life, and only because we had tons in common. Anybody that can sing damn near the whole catalog of Metallica is somebody I’m gonna be interested in.

    Back to your foolishness, in high school, I ran with the nerds, had a few crushes. Were any of them checking for me? NO. They was looking at Bust It Open Betty and Suck It Down Sandra, who had 0 time for any of their Dragon Ball Z watching asses. Meanwhile, I was selling anime tapes to them, and arguing about the latest saga. So the bullshit you just listed cause you in your feels that a Blerd chick wasn’t checking for your invalid ass, is wrong. Don’t make excuses and degrade us with your illogical thoughts so you can date a Becky guilt free. Guess what? You can date outside your race without feeling the urge to put down the women of your race.

    Let’s just put it this way: the force wasn’t strong enough with you to pull one of us..so live long and prosper…and go fuck yourself. 🖕🖕

    • H.T. Smith

      You look like a moose. No wonder the beckies won lol

      • Gentris L. Jointe

        As a real black man, I just want to say shut up you fucking coon.

        • H.T. Smith

          Caping in the comments not gonna get you those cheeks bro

  • Johnna Otteroates

    Just say it’s easier to date a white woman because you don’t like black women anyway. As a former single black geek girl, black male geeks weren’t checking for me because I was too black looking. Full lips, thick thighs, a big butt, curly hair, etc.

    They wanted Asian girls that could look like anime characters and white women who could easily emulate them.

    I’ve been married to a white guy 13 years and with him 18 years and he was just as geeky as me, he never had to explain why he didn’t have to make whole articles explaining why he was dating a black girl instead of a white one.

    • H.T. Smith

      She’s married to a simp. Lol

      • Johnna Otteroates

        A simp? What does that even mean?

        Are you so insecure in your masculinity you make gross assumptions based on your insecurities and not facts?

  • Charnelle

    Lolz….nah.

    Signed,

    Blerdette happily in love with her Blerd

  • ThaGoddess9

    “Blerds date blerds every day, B” -Rico

    • H.T. Smith

      Not in my corner of the earth

  • H.T. Smith

    As I read the comments of all my detractors here, I think it’s clear I’m right as the only ones mad are the muducks or the mewling quims. I stand by my words, you pillocky mingers.

    God bless America

    • Johnna Otteroates

      Isn’t your girlfriend a muduck?

      • H.T. Smith

        Still more likable than you

        • Gentris L. Jointe

          Just another self-hating negro whose personal revulsion is directed at the most vulnerable demographic in our community, the one who raised his dumb ass, the black woman. Nothing here but poor argumentation supported by racist stereotypes, wild speculation, and navel-gazing self-pity. Nothing to see here.

          Sincerely,
          A Real Black Man

          • H.T. Smith

            Enough simping.

            • fosterakahunter

              Your whole self-hating diatribe is simping, kid.

              • H.T. Smith

                because Im not like you calling women queens and saying how their victims? IM the simp? out my face

              • “M”

                Isn’t he pitiful?

            • fosterakahunter

              You’re the type of dude that gazes at the floor when someone like me is in your sphere addressing you. I’d just care for a bit of contact when I speak to another Black man. That is what you are, right, kid?

              • H.T. Smith

                I give attention when needed. so no, I won’t look at your nutty self.

        • Johnna Otteroates

          At least you admit she’s a muduck. My husband has liked me for 18 years. We’re good on not needing validation from strangers on the internet to justify our relationship. It’s because we’re comfortable and secure in our relationship.

          Not everyone can say that.

          • H.T. Smith

            no such thing. everyone has a fear. you just have to find it and dig.

      • Shanelle Robinson

        He’s a muduck.

    • ThaGoddess9

      So you’re just going to refuse to do the self-introspection that would lead you to realize that your whole persona is likely off-putting because of the ironic combination of self-importance and self-pity…

      You may also eventually learn that lots of white women, nerdy ones especially, are well-acquainted with self-important misanthropic misogynists. They will learn that it ain’t just the white boys.

      Good luck

      • H.T. Smith

        Yeah, and those white guys get paid. I respect the hustle

        • ThaGoddess9

          Nothing to do with how paid anyone is… A broke man can still be a self-important misanthrope.

          I read some of your other articles. Not badly written. Almost looked like there was balance (except for THIS article). But the common theme all around was still Black Women Are At Fault.

          It would be refeshing, and likely actually do some good, if men would talk with women to learn where they are actually coming from, instead of coming to sweeping conclusions from just their own expeiences & observations. (Goes for anyone too, male or female, any color)

          Peace and good luck.

          • H.T. Smith

            And it would be great if men weren’t expected to lash themselves and say men are trash to be seen as good men.

            I write these kinds of articles as I tire of men being expected to beg for forgiveness for things many of us don’t have a real hand in the existence or perpetuance of. No amount of making men self loath will fix society. In fact, it will bring ruin

            • ThaGoddess9

              So many women do not want men to disavow their masculinity for our approval. We don’t want them to be hypermasculine sexists either. Above all, most people, Blerds in particular, want to find partners that dig them as people. If you’re deciding that it can’t be another blerd “because of black woman (or man) bullshit”… If that’s all you’re coming across, widen your scope. But don’t try to say it’s All. This goes for women on that mess too.

              *sidenote: male gatekeepers are waaaay more common than female. Most girls just want to enjoy their fandom without boys constantly discounting their cred because, “you’re a girl”.

              • H.T. Smith

                1. Who are you to decide what is hypermasculine when what falls under the acceptable standards of masculinity is us resorting back to being like urkel?

                2. We need those gatekeepers as people like you keep trying to make watered down characters, racebending, and emasculated male heroes the norm. Eff a carefree black boy, toughen up and wreck house.

                • ThaGoddess9

                  You are automatically applying to me the attributes you are complaing about in your article–where none of what I wrote pointed to it.
                  Doubling down on your chosen biases apparently make one blind to examples of the opposite. Such as my first sentence before hypermasculine. (I don’t dig too-soft men. I don’t dig hard-as-nails men either. I dig balanced men who are comfortable within themselves and *aren’t defaulted to viewing women as adversaries or subordinates i.e. hypermasculine* –which goes to mentality, not appearance. Urkels can be pretentious insufferable men too )

                  Male gatekeeping was around way before the bit of gender bending and emasculated heroes came about. (Even though Anime has had these since forever) AND I’m not into it at all, personally.

                  *so many men always complaining that “girls ruined THEIR thing”, …when they’ve always been OUR thing too. Gaming, comics, toons, etc.

                  Most Blerds dig other Blerds and are always thrilled when they find their geek tribe of other black people. Then there are those who think as you do, male and female.

                  • H.T. Smith

                    People think like me because we come from the corners of the world where you cannot trust the idea of balance.

                    I’ve always grown up with blerds who aren’t team workers. It’s why Detroit produces some of the best FGC players.

                    There may be truth to what you are saying, but it’s not everyone’s realities.

      • Neoliberal Coastal Elitist

        A black chick talking about “self-introspection.” These are people for whom everything is somebody else’s fault and they are the eternal victim. Drink whenever someone says “misogynoir.” What a laugh. Glad I stumbled into this article.

    • Neoliberal Coastal Elitist

      Wait…”mewling quim”? Negro did NOT just go all Loki on these ho es. LMAO!!!!

  • So an opinion piece from a self-proclaimed black nerd talking about his experiences as a Blerd in the dating world when it comes to Blerd women is somehow racist? Interesting. 🤔

    • Lots of racists appeal to their anecdotal experiences to justify their bigotry. If you honestly don’t see how he’s not being racist here, you must be too clinically moronic to function in civilized society.

      • If you are honestly trying to say a black man giving his opinion on black women he’s encountered is somehow racist…then you are just another idiot with access to the internet wasting precious 0’s & 1’s.

    • Rosalind Mayfield

      Racists is saying blerd men should completely discard blerd women yes! Not choose the best individual regardless of race DON’T DATE BLACK WOMEN point of the whole article. I would’ve liked to actually hear about his “actual experiences” all I read was what he thinks everyone thinks of blerds and his ridiculous thoughts on the blerd woman’s experience and what she wants and wants to do to blerds. Not really anything that he has experienced or different things he has tried. He so disconnected he thinks the black community wants a young thug type lol he is just as ostracized for being an individual. He’s too concerned with what he thinks everyone else thinks instead of his own truth

      • H.T. Smith

        And you haven’t been used like I have. Kindly toss off

        • Rosalind Mayfield

          You have no idea what I’ve been through and wasn’t that the point of the article shouldn’t I have learned what actually got you to this point not just some contrived self hating thoughts but some facts.

          • H.T. Smith

            What got me to this point were women like you who talk just like you justifying leaving me for some dirty dude who’s homeless. I actually have a chance but i have to compete with trash?

            • Rosalind Mayfield

              Again very pointed assumptions you don’t know me and they talk like me?well congrats to them. What makes you better than a homeless guy?

              • H.T. Smith

                I HAVE A HOME. I’m not wanted by the police, I don’t have random kids I’m not taking care of, I have a job.

                All that dude had was he could dance, could sorta sing and girls thought he s cute. I lost to hoe logic really

                • Rosalind Mayfield

                  Maybe she was just interested in the arts. All I know is you do a lot of finger pointing at everyone it’s the blerd woman’s fault you couldn’t find a date , the black community doesn’t like you. Unrealistic ego putting down everyone you feel was chosen over you or anyone that still loves black women whatever size they are.You need to work on being your best self and stop deflecting your selfhate on us your responses show immaturity which is probably why you go after women you have chosen to go after that you claim chose beneath you. But who are you we’ve heard you belittle black men based on what they look like and what material possession, but what is so great about you, what do you look like, what do you have? You go over every other black man with a fine tooth comb yet your stance for yourself is take u as u are and there is no room for improvement

                  • H.T. Smith

                    Look, I know where my strengths lie. I don’t need to become one of these corny SOBs who conform to every wish and desire some random woman wants.

                    That’s how dad did it, that’s how his dad did it, and its worked out pretty well so far – Tony Stark

                    • Rosalind Mayfield

                      Again you didn’t answer the question just another jab at other black men who apparently aren’t allowed to be corny. Who are you ? What’s so attractive about who you are that you are so outraged that you feel skipped over?

    • “M”

      It’s called “internalized racism”. It’s what has you jonesing after Beckies in the first place.

      I’m sure you can Google it if you’re the Blerd you say you are.

  • Shanelle Robinson

    They value what white men have. They’re pathetic.

    • H.T. Smith

      Were strong. Were not just begging for Scooby snacks like those simps Rod and kriss

      • Shanelle Robinson

        Wtf are you talking about? Just go and bleach your skin already.

        • H.T. Smith

          Don’t want to. Piss off snickerdoodle

  • DC Akanni Moore
    • H.T. Smith

      Freedom of speech

  • Rosalind Mayfield

    The replies from the men are just as what you would expect from a man that agrees with this degrading name calling they can’t even discuss the topic at hand and are so self concerned that can’t understand the outrage of what it feels like to be on the other side of this article being told you have no value to blerd men and should be discarded. It’s no wonder that can’t find a mate.🤔

    • H.T. Smith

      Freedom of speech

      • Rosalind Mayfield

        Lack of intelligence and inability to back your hate speech

        • H.T. Smith

          No such thing. Just speech you don’t like

          • Rosalind Mayfield

            Of course there is you haven’t answered a single reasonable question posed to you seriously. I wonder how many rallies you had to attend before you decided to write your own hate pamphlet

            • H.T. Smith

              So because I said something you don’t like, it’s hate speech? God, you cultural marxists

              • Rosalind Mayfield

                No because it’s a hate speech it didn’t work out for you and you tapped out so you don’t wanna see any other happy blerd couples out there because your jealous. The rhetoric of the article wasn’t how much you love your non black girlfriend and people should open them selves up to interracial dating it was never date a blerd woman

              • Taiyon Demyers

                Hey John Joe. Is that you?

                • H.T. Smith

                  taiyon, this aint the time. you know im right. were from the same town. we know this is for the best

  • H.T. Smith

    Dudes probably a huge simp

  • H.T. Smith

    Freedom of speech

    • Shanelle Robinson

      How many white men do you hang out with?

      • H.T. Smith

        Not many. My best friends are 2 black men, a white guy, and a black woman.

        The friends I hang with are mostly black or latino. I rarely see my white friends.

        Look, what’s your point?

    • DoGoOn

      The government isn’t trying to stop you from spouting this BS. Freedom of Speech? FOH

      • “M”

        He means Freeze Peach – there’s no prior restraint here in his trifling white-supremacist-jonesing babblings

  • H.T. Smith

    Have a girlfriend. Mentioned at the top of the article

    • Rosalind Mayfield

      Not one that you wanted did you read the article someone told you to lower your standards and date interracially. Clearly if someone had to tell u to do it you weren’t open to it.

      • H.T. Smith

        Look, I love her. That’s all that matters

        • Johnna Otteroates

          But do you love her or is your masculinity so fragile you need female validation and will accept it from anyone willing to entertain you?

          Because this article showed you as weak, simplistic, with warped ideas of gender roles in which you uphold white supremacy and stereotypes to validate your need for anything white to make you feel like a real man.

          • H.T. Smith

            Because I’m not like these sad SOBs willing to do away with gender roles because “muh white supremacy” I’m the bad guy?

            Go to hell, I’ve seen plenty of traditional gender role marriages last more than half a century. And I’ve seen guys who talk like you having to watch thier wives smash other dudes because they can’t be “patriarchal”

            Out my face with that ish

  • H.T. Smith

    Eh, now it does. Because I don’t break the law. Simple

  • Rosalind Mayfield

    And I have the same rights to not date you

  • H.T. Smith

    Congrats. You know my real name. But now you know why this is necessary.

  • Tianna Thomas

    Oh noooo! Some random dude on the internet projecting his unresolved issues about his own skin color doesn’t want us! What ever shall we do!?!? 😂 I, for one, appreciate the heads up. Tell us how you REALLY feel, so we can avoid your ass like the plague.

  • Neoliberal Coastal Elitist

    Good man, great article. These h oes never wanted your blerd-a ss to begin with, they’re just mad that a) they don’t get to reject you first and b) they can’t compete with white women. One less “beta male” to deal with, you’d think they’d be happy. Do you, bro.

    • fosterakahunter

      We got another one, here…
      Did the cXXn train just pull into station, or what?

      • Neoliberal Coastal Elitist

        Better a cXXn than a simp.

        • H.T. Smith

          agreed

        • fosterakahunter

          You’re a bit of both, though, aren’t you?

          • Neoliberal Coastal Elitist

            Anyone who thinks beyond simple-minded n egro parameters is a cxxn. As such, I wear the mantle proudly.

  • DoGoOn

    All black women are a problem because YOU can’t get none? What part of the game is that?

  • DoGoOn

    Reading these comments, I take it back. To H.T.: whoever it was who hurt you, I’m sorry, fam. I hope you get the healing you need.

    Peace.

    • H.T. Smith

      nothing will heal the pain because you cant heal wounds that keep getting reopened.

  • Samoski Cortez Oliver

    So basically you mad cause your game is weak?

    • H.T. Smith

      f** game. women need to date for practical means and then maybe there wouldn’t be so many fatherless children out here. because they’ll f**k a dude with game who will leave them with kids and debt, but ignore a good man who would be a good father and provider because he has no “game” FOH game ruins meritocracy

    • H.T. Smith

      Game is for idiotic children who think this is high school

  • Reziel Darkmoon

    BOOM!!!!!!!!!! PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • YouNeedAdviceBruh

    Bruh.

    I’m going to keep it 100 with you as your brother and someone who cares about the success of the Detroit community. The issue isn’t the women–it’s YOU. I can tell that your bitter mindset is poisoning you.

    You’re extremely insecure and blaming women from your problems. This is making you socially awkward in a “creepy” way. I’m listening to the podcast you linked and you don’t have any confidence in yourself. Instead, you’ve gone around blaming the world for everything you don’t have.

    I want you to ask yourself “why would a beautiful woman be lucky to date me?” and take this question seriously. Because the real problem is that you seem to be lacking “wins” and success in general. Really, this article is showing me how much you hate YOURSELF rather than anyone else.

    Develop yourself. Try something new and develop new habits. Make yourself interesting by taking interests in things other than anime and video games. Start exercising. Start reading. Try to advance in your career. I GUARANTEE that once you start liking yourself, you’ll have more people that want to send time with you (women included). But right now, and I’m just being honest, there’s nothing about you that indicates any attractive qualities to a woman. Self-improvement doesn’t make you weak.

    Don’t expect anyone to flock to you when you’re so angry and spiteful when you don’t get your way. You’re fully mistaken that black women don’t want to date black nerds–but they want to date a man who can handle his business and isn’t crazy. You’re getting in bar fights and hitting niggas in the head with stools in East Lansing? You’re posting all of these crazy things online while attaching your own picture to it? You lack empathy and it’s getting you into trouble.

    I think you should consider deleting your social media accounts and staying off the internet for a good month.

  • Ebony J Hinton

    This is poorly written. Sweeping generalizations. Holes in your arguments. Who hurt you?

  • Gorgeousguru

    I could slap the hell out of this author. As long as I’ve been a Blerd woman and passed up for other women by Black men I’m infuriated. Blerd men go to White women because they want video models in our community. That’s right. Someone smart and mainstream beautiful. I’ve been building robots since I was three. I’ve been on 233 dates in the last year and 109 were with Blerd men. ALL of them passed on me for a White woman. Your experience isn’t any different from mine. So boo hoo. I don’t have kids. Most Blerd men assume I do so they pass on me for having my shit together and being child free. Additionally, their family don’t approve of me for being a Black articulate geek. Am I offended? Hell yeah. That’s Black men buying into the horrors imposed on Black women by passing us up to satisfy another person with a mainstream mindset.

    So sit down and shut up.

    • H.T. Smith

      I can tell you’re ugly and unlikable. mainstream works. get over yourself

  • Akera ChiRel

    Honestly speaking, you wouldn’t have to worry about black giri emasculating you. Judging from this post I can already tell that you’re a bitch.

    • H.T. Smith

      thank you, so are you

  • ohdali

    Just wanted to make it clear, non mudd ducks think you are pretty lame too. This whole post is laughably pathetic. You have very niche interests which many black women won’t share. Yet you have personal bias against the female blerds who identify with the same subculture and tribe as you : /

    Further, you’re not into personal style and perhaps even grooming. And what can I say a line up and/or freshly twisted locs just do something for us! Then to top it all off you’re pretty chauvinistic. And you know we’re much too sassy for all that 🙂

    So basically you had to options: Put a little effort into self improvement, be that internally or externally. So you can engage with a black woman who actually reciprocates your interest. (Which is not entitled, btw.) Or date outside of the race. You chose the latter. Cool. But let’s not rewrite the narrative, you did not fire black women. You apparently never stood a chance.

    Sadly though, we are somehow STILL the object of your affections. Otherwise you would have used the time penning this cry for attention, to perhaps write your girlfriend a love letter… or iron your dusty, I mean vintage Dragon Ball Z t-shirt, before date night 🙂

    Since you’re apparently new to the whole relationship thing, I’m going to leave you with one bit of advice. You need to be whole, before you can be someone’s better half. You clearly have unresolved personal issues you are projecting onto black women and men alike. If your “girlfriend” is as human and lovely as you claim, she probably doesn’t want to be your revenge plot or token nonblack girl. If she exists at all. I’m married. Actually, I’m not. See how easy it was to lie about my relationship status!

    • H.T. Smith

      lol you think dudes are supposed to jump through hoops when yall be smashing dusty dudes with no job or place of their own? FOH

  • Khadija Hulon

    Ugly blerds are so annoying lol I’m a woman who loves blerds: the cute ones. I love smart smart mouthed black men in button ups and afros lol but, I don’t enjoy the ones that have been so damaged that they prejudge me. I become some bimbo black girl to them just because I’m pretty and not nerdy at all. I’m an ace writer, well read and all, but they judge my book by its cover sometimes and expect me to be stuck up and uneducated. I laugh at those guys deep down. I see their walls go up against me and they strike out to tear me down before I can reject them when all the while I was quietly full of blerd fantasies. This guy has no idea how many cute black girls he’s missed out on because he was too afraid to look up or out of the box!

    • H.T. Smith

      I did. Those are the ones who used me for free food and slept with my friends

  • R.A.B.

    First off you’re entire argument is flawed in the belief that your short comings with black women is a testament to all blerds out there. But besides even, that what bothers me most is why do you need this irrational, convoluted explanation to why you’re dating a white girl. It shouldn’t be I’ve sworn off black women and white women are better for me. Your reason for being with this girl should start and end at “I love her and she loves me” black, white, hispanic, or whatever. Without that, it just feels like you’re insecure and are rationalizing those insecurities through shifting blame.

    • H.T. Smith

      I do what I want. this is america

  • Neoliberal Coastal Elitist

    Maybe black women need to step their game up or else they wouldn’t be whining about a blerd dating out who they didn’t want in the first place. Just a thought.

    • Reziel Darkmoon

      Big homey….. What you said is some bitch made female shit…. BOSS UP…. MAN UP….. AND COMMAND RESPECT with the dignity and majesty that god gave you naturally with the essence of a real man and most women will pick up on that energy and follow the MALE’s lead and work with him…. 99% of dudes that agree with this shit is bitch made and got mommy issues…. women will naturally test you man up and pass the shit…. Life is full if trials and tribulations quit crying…. damn you want some cheese with that whine

      • LOL listen to this ignorant, fake alpha-male hotep bulls hit. I truly hope you’re getting those black panties talking all that garbage because you sound just like them h oes. Are you sure you’re actually a guy? Let me say it once for the dummies, meaning you. If this blerd black man is dating out, that means more black women for you. Dude is off the chess board, fucc do you care where he puts his penis. Commenting on it is truly bitch-made. Be concerned about your own s hit.

        Class dismissed.

        • Reziel Darkmoon

          I have not time to speak to sea monsters like to…. back to the abyss with you….. and Queen is not a term for you

  • H.T. Smith

    the fact that black women are attracted to swag rather than practical means is why I stopped. the fact that black women have all these demands but typically only bring vagina and complaints is why plenty of guys like me have tapped out.

    I gotta go to the gym to get one of them? screw that. white women will take me as I am and be gucci. peace

    • Reziel Darkmoon

      WEAK AND PATHETIC I know fat dudes that get ALL TYPES of pussy that are like nerd Jesus sooooooooooo maybe its you maybe you’re and asshole or god just does not like you IDK….. You crying like a female right now…. There are all types of black women that would like you but you on some weak shit and they have a keen sense of smell for weak rob kardashian type men like you that is on some simp shit sorry not sorry homey …. My wife has a masters degree and make 3x as much as I do but she loves me because of the Shit I said above and also because I am true to myself and I am a man and know how to BOSS up on any female not on some IKE TURNNER SHIT BUT SOME REAL MAN SHIT…. You are making excuses and BULLSHITING….. My BLACK WIFE HOW IS NOT A NERD helped me focus and become a better man while I was down soooooooooooo yeah…. We will see how long Becky will hold you down dumbass….. OJ did dumb shit like that to…. I hope she do hold you down but she can NEVER UNDERSTAND YOU…. Tariq and Professor black TRUTH are right and I am a Blerd and I agree with them…. You throw your own ppl under the bus…. Unforgivable just cuz 1, 2, or 3 women turned ass down in high school you got an ax to grind and you crying…. LIKE A BITCH…. Fuck outta here

      • H.T. Smith

        The neckties didn’t demand I take on some BS persona of pro blackness to be with them. I don’t need them to get me, that’s why I have a therapist.

      • H.T. Smith

        The beckies didn’t demand I act like a idiot like you to be with them. I don’t need a woman to get me, I have a therapist who gets my struggle. She’s a white woman who’s married to a black man

        • Reziel Darkmoon

          Dude do you have a string or a dick between your legs man…. You on some weak shit man… I feel sorry for you but go in corner and cry…. black women need REAL MEN…. bitch made ones like you on some ho shit… The thing about it is as a blerd I LOOK UP TO GUYS HOW DID WHAT THEY HAD TO DO AND STOOD STRONG AND DIDN’T QUIT… you quit and FAILED YOUR PPL….. do you pimp I FIGHT FOR MY PPL and will hold them down 110% go read stories about greater men and NEVER LEAN how to be a GREAT MAN….

          • H.T. Smith

            I did. Guys like you serve only as traction for the tanks while I live and fight another day. C’est la vie, Reziel. There’s no honor in sacrificing yourself for fruitless causes, so just cover your self.

            This is the part where you call me a coward

            • Reziel Darkmoon

              MY LIFE FOR MY FAMILY AND MY PPL….. COWARD…. Most high will protect me player…… You are worse than the White supremacist…. You have given up…. Profound sadness…. you could have been such a help to our ppl…. I DON’T CARE if you date white women I care that you have given up on black women and ultimately yourself and your ppl….. and the worst part of this is that you know my words are true…. A LION that has lost his pride and mane is a sad sad sight…. your ancestors tears are ocean

              • H.T. Smith

                Your family and your people. Good excuse lol. You have no REAL protection. How am I worse? I didn’t give up, I just don’t fight unwinnable battles to look cool to other hoteps.

                I wasn’t a help because at a young age I knew we were SOOL.. Everyone wanted to be a fake revolutionary or a rapper or a athlete. All the people like me who wanted to do different things like be a lawyer or a doctor or in my case make video games were teased out of the black community. Then they wondered why no one of value stayed.

                Go ahead, keep trying to fight the man. You won’t win as long as you keep scaring away the REAL intellectuals and not just the jaggoff talking about white supremacy all the time

  • H.T. Smith

    and they look like a moose. I saw what I am at my core and goddamnit ill go to my grave being it before I make a permanent choice for potentially temporary reasons.

  • Jen Gemini Jones

    Okay…. your article doesn’t actually explain anything. You say don’t date black woman and you state reasons that aren’t geared to just being black. All I saw is hate you said you don’t have to change yourself to be loved. Okay, got it. You said black woman not like who you are which is why you date your white girlfriend. Got it, so are you saying black women nerds standards are too high or white girls are easier to deal with? Now let me tell you how wrong you are and how it’s probably you. 1. I’ve seen you insult people for disagreeing with you so that really leads me to believe you are a typical online kid that insults people instead of having a grown up discussion. That was unnecessary. 2. White girls understand you. You didn’t really elaborate on this. How? They like the same anime as you or something? They let you be who you want to be? That is not an understanding from racial stand point it’s a personal preference kid. Know the difference. 3. So you are blaming a entire race of woman for the experiences you have had in your city? Have you been to other locations? Have you even been out the house to a anime/comic book/ or whatever convention. Well I have and I’m telling you its a lot of different type of people, sorry you got ya heart broken by a few woman but like 5 black woman or even 10 doesn’t tell you how everyone is. You need to learn to heal and move on. 4. A white girl will never understand you the way a black girl would. Not sure how you got that twisted unless you lived a sheltered life, but my blerd boyfriend when he was trying to date outside his race got told he is too scary because of how dark he is. So maybe your experience is black woman hate me but his experience is that white and Asian women want him as a token black dude to fuck and call him scary. 5. There are men that like a woman that would change then and push them to do better. I hang around black men nerds on a normal bases and they would all disagree with you. I linked this article to some of the and they disagreed with you. Ooo surprise the black male nerd community doesn’t agree with you. Some guys love the push that a woman gives them to change. As long as its reasonable they want to change for the better. How many of my black nerd males friends have my budget their bank accounts so they can save money for the next anime convention we go to. 6. If tiny don’t want to change for a woman then don’t. No one asked you. But don’t blame us for not wanting you. It’s a personal problem not a black male nerd problem. My black nerd male friends have black girlfriends or have dated them with no problem. You just have a personal problem. And if it happens that many times I’m sorry dude its you.

    • H.T. Smith

      It’s not me. Very few black women understand me because I don’t have a victim mentality like many do. It’s not me.

      • pfft

        ” i dont have a victim mentality” bruh….this whole article is you being a victim this is so sad you have no self awareness omg :c

  • Reziel Darkmoon

    SOME OF THE DUDE ON HERE… do you motherfucker have a god damn STRING BETWEEN YOUR LEGS OR A DICK… as a BLERD MAN THE FUCK UP…. just cuz you a nerd there is no excuse for you to bitch up……

    • H.T. Smith

      Being loud isn’t going to help you. Let it go

  • Christopher Mufasa Ruffin

    Im starting to feel this way too. All the black nerd girls I come across strictly white men only. The non nerdy black women feel like Im not a “protector”. It’s usually American ones tho, black Latinas and African girls show me love.

    Truth be told tho. I don’t feel like black men and women in America are compatible anymore. Black women see us as oppressors, and there are, more than I care to admit, black men slandering black women. I’ve always believed hate not being the opposite of Love, rather indifference, but all the things I see online, I think the beat option is for black men and women in America to go their separate ways and not even mention one another anymore.

  • NamiSwaan

    I love nerdy black men. Im sorry you had it rough trying to find someone to connect with. This article is depressing for women like me but I know its rough out there in the dating world. I wish you and Jacqueline happiness but don’t lead others into believing what you went through is what every black nerd will go through. Black women have enough people in the world dogging us out.

  • Andrew

    White women are objectively more attractive than black women….why can’t you accept that? White women are desired by all races because of their looks…..black women are just not the most attractive (on average).

  • H.T. Smith

    None of what you said matters. Go let them tell you your masculinity is fragile while they make you wear a dress or something.

    • “M”

      Your problem isn’t being a blerd – it’s being a self-hating other-blaming hyper-argumentative jerk.

  • H.T. Smith

    Yup

  • “M”

    You could’ve offered me a link if I wasn’t already bored because it’s days later.
    But I also don’t need to bother because I have other things to do – while you obviously have nothing to do BUT be sh*tty to people.

    So go be sh*tty somewhere else. I have no plans to make your problems my problems.

    • H.T. Smith

      Narcissist

  • Guess Who

    Aww baby what beautifully black woman hurt your feelings so? Don’t be so bitter.
    I’m a blerd and I prefer blerd men. As long as we click.

    Maybe you’re just trash? Judging from this article, you seem to exhibit trashy ways. White women are going to get tired of you eventually too.

    There’s no reason to generalize people either. For example, I have enough sense not to blame all black male nerds for your garbage behavior. Since you’re all individuals. See how easy that is?

  • Damn, this is so unfortunate. First, I have no problem with black (or any) men dating outside their “race” because I am a black woman married to a white man (not because I wrote off black men or chose to exclusively date white men–rather, I just happened to meet a man that ticked all my boxes and he happened to be white). What’s actually upsetting is this heartbreaking infighting. The idea that both black women and black men feel so unappreciated by each other that they vilify one another and swear each other off. Instead of putting our energy into despising one another and writing thinkpieces about why we shouldn’t date each other, I wish we’d come together to tackle these issues. I’m sorry that you’ve had the experiences you’ve had, but surely you must know that you haven’t met all of the black women in the world and surely many of them WOULD be interested in you and would love you just as good as a white woman would. This is just so sad!

  • Naomi

    Well I have seen some abuse on here towards the guy and that seems unnecessary. Also I know im supposed to be deeply offended but I kind of laughed at a lot of this. Ive heard this stuff before but never to this extent I think this guy is clearly resentful but also a bit of an asshole. Not like fuck you because you dont agree with me, more like ” here goes another silly internet person.” Because in the real world no one owes you anything. Real world people know this, just because you perceive the lives of others a certain way you have allowed yourself to feel you have been conned or mistreated. In reality black women dont owe it to you to be automatically attracted to you. Likewise it is strange and also quite fetishy to assume women of other races will and should provide you your manly needs 😂 This dude clearly is not a believer of feminism or free will but he enjoys a good sulk, well that’s how it seems. I am a black women, I date a black man. We are both nerds. Yes I love that he is black, its a beautiful common ground. But also I love his passion, hard working nature, artistry, sense humour etc. I didnt just point at the first black nerd with glassses and date him. No I like him because he is well suited to ME in a number of ways. Hence why I think this man is a child living in self centred boy world and therefore I found the whole article extraordinarily silly 😂😂😂

  • This dude isn’t even a blerd man. He’s a TheRedPIll guy. Get outta here with that nonsense. The black male population has enough issues of it’s own to deal with in our relationships with black women with you trying to throw TRP nonsense on top of it.

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